Before I trained as a doula I thought a babymoon was a trip you take as a pregnant couple for that 'last chance' to be together before little one arrived. To many people it is exactly that, and who would say no to a holiday right!?
It however is also the precious and crucial time that a new mother or birthing person spends with their newborn baby, taking things slow as they recover. It is the act of actively carving out that space and time for you to be together. It is also sometimes known as a 'mothermoon'.
It is recommended that in order to really build your bond with baby, establish a good breastmilk supply, rest and recover, you should be slowing down, focusing on feeding, skin to skin, keeping hydrated and eating nutritious food and rest.
It is a chance for you to 'hunker down' with your new addition; get cosy, pay attention to both of your needs, and forget the outside world for a bit (if you want to that is!).
This isn't about being lazy, antisocial or untidy or whatever might go through your head (guilt is powerful right?) It is a crucial time for you and your baby to get to know one another, for them to feel safe, and for your bodies to do what they're made to do and get that feeding down to an art. Let that oxytocin flow!
A babymoon can look different to everyone - it is important to do what feels right for you.
A babymoon could mean:
no visitors for a couple of weeks
moving your mum in for support
hiring a postnatal doula
getting to know your local takeaway delivery services a little better
cooking nutritious meals as a family while baby is close to you in a sling or with another care giver.
booking a babysitter or family member to take your older children for a bit
family walks
booking in a treat like a head or hand massage, facial, or reiki
simply watching your favourite films or tv programmes together as a family
Ultimately, a babymoon should be about whatever makes you feel good all the while getting to know your little one and spending that crucial time with your new baby.
If you have any questions about anything you have read here or would like to know how I can support you in your babymoon then please do not hesitate to get in touch or visit my services page.
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